In primitive times a person’s existence was dependent entirely on one’s ability to survive in the face of indeterminate odds. Ironically, those ‘laws of the jungle’ exist even today on modern human society – and while we may not be dealing with life and death situations around every corner we are dealing with sufficiently life altering critical ‘win or lose’ based constructs.
The only problem with this thought process however is that when you are living a life where you think in terms of ‘win or lose’ what you are actually doing is turning your usually colorful life and turning it into a black and white Audrey Hepburn movie. You miss out on all the nuances of living life and get sucked into a repetitive thought pattern where all you can think of is what you missed out on. In short, you forget to see the positives in life because you are so fixated on the negatives.